Friendship generally consists of six basic elements. Honesty, kindness, laughter, generosity, loyalty and magic. These are also the six basic elements that can be found in the show My Little Ponies. A child’s show that incorporates the basic patterns of forming friendships and overcoming obstacles. With this element of magic, it is so much easier to make friends as a young child. Children are less judgmental, and meeting a friend in a fantastical world with dragons and or the modern day adventurer searching for a long lost treasure. As the years go on, and girls become more concerned about make up and the curiosity of men, opposed to barbie dolls and secret coodie codes. In todays time, it can start with a single common interest.
Passing glances and questioning smiles. The ingredients to a perfect friendship is a balance of the ability to humiliate oneself and connect on an intimate level without the sexual attraction. A friendship needs to take time to cook and it requires the precautionary attention to detail.
Similar to the risotto, it requires surveillance. Checking to make sure the rice does not get too soggy and it must be thrown out and to start again. If the rice is undercooked then it once again must be thrown away, because the water did not fully seep into the rice and not enough time was given for everything to full cook. The individual spices that make the perfect recipe have not had time to absorb in the rice. To create a perfect risotto it is important to embrace the distinct connection between taste and smell. The flavors that mixes together a balsamic vinaigrette with sautéed mushrooms that sizzles into the rice, filling the room with a dark fragrance. The layered over asiago chicken will invite a smoky flavor into the dish. And each smell will capture a new memory.
There will be the time that there was only a hunting knife and one pot to cook with. Sixteen people were expected to show up, expecting a multiple course meal. With all the cooking pots locked away behind wooden doors. The only key miles off campus. The bobby pin method didn’t work, so that small knife and pot were going to have to due. A mixture of youtube episodes of my drunk kitchen and ‘Nsync dance montages were the only thing keeping spirits up. But after the asiago chicken blends into the risotto and a few glasses of wine, things don’t seem as hopeless. Friends are understanding and something that isn’t Dana seems like a specialty. But it wouldn't have been possible without her. That newly formed friend that kept things calm in the kitchen. She made sure that the glass of Pinot Noir is always close at hand. That while hair needed to be curled and make up needed to be applied to looks half way decent for a dinner party, the appetizers would be distributed amongst guests and the risotto wouldn’t burn. A night that was successful, but only because of that friend.
It isn’t possible to learn friendship without learning a friend. It is sharing the side walk, neither leading for following, understanding despite not agreeing. Each one distinct in unique, that mixes together a blend of memories and deep connection. There are hundreds of variations in this recipes, each one derived from a specific pair. So here is the recipe of just one Amy Poehler and Tina Fey like relationship.
Holding each other in bed when an anonymous father disappoints yet again.
Knowing to bring the tequila when a complicated relationship when a boyfriend leaves and the only feeling recognizable in this world is one of being alone.
Saying what needs to be said, even though it may be tough, but that friend will know that it is said out of love.
Realizing that friend is on the phone with a relative who sometimes makes her feel insecure. And needing to tell her that she shouldn't be.
Having dance parties in the living room and not have to worry about looking like a fool.
The mixture of unique interests and personal flavor
Uncontrollable laughing sessions that hurt the stomach and in the end it is difficult to remember what started it all.
Calling upon them to reveal those deepest secrets and not have the worries of being judged.
Quoting movies that out of context will seem bizarre to the people in passing.
Standing up for them when someone else is trying to put them down.
And finally, magic, for garnish